10 questions to ask yourself before leaving your guy
1-Did I really try to do everything to save my marriage?
We consume more and more the couple as a Kleenex, we throw it when it no longer satisfies us. Do you find that your man is less attentive to you? too concerned about his work? Before making a hasty decision, explain to him how you feel. Feel free to see a marriage counselor, who may help you save your story.
2- Do I have a real future with him?
This is a crucial question. If you dream of having children while refusing to form a family, you are facing a serious dilemma. Because if you stay with him, you risk him for all your life and miss your biggest dream. When we are not on the same wavelength, we must have the courage to leave.
3- Will I find better than him?
We know what we lose but we do not know what we find. Observe the guys from your girlfriends. Between us, your man is not a hundred times better?
4- Does not I make a decision too hasty?
All marriage counselors agree that it takes at least three months to start asking questions. And at least as much to start answering. It's useless to rush and spoil everything. So, take some time to think.
5- Do I really have a good reason to leave?
If you want to leave it only because you have less desire for your man, it's a very bad reason. When you share a man's life for a long time, there are bound to be times when your sex life is less torrid, that's normal. Instead of leaving your man, try to find ploys to restore your sex life.
6- Am I able to forgive him?
He deceived you, you felt betrayed, humiliated. You think of leaving him for this infidelity. If you do not feel able to forgive him and trust him again, then you have to leave him better because otherwise you risk destroying yourself.
7-Will my mother recover?
Your man is the ideal son-in-law, your mother was all about him, you imagined to found a good family. In short, you risk to plunge it into a deep depression. Well, it's a non-admissible argument! Do not forget that one chooses by his man for his family, neither for his friends but for oneself.
8- Is not it also my fault?
It is important to question yourself. And finally, everything was not just your guy's fault, as you had a tendency to think. You surely also have your share of responsibility. Take stock of your past relationships, maybe you'll always act the same when you're upset. It may be time to mature ....
9- Am I strong enough to leave him?
Do not forget that it is a heavy choice of consequences. One must be psychologically prepared to face oneself. Relearning to live alone is often difficult. On the other hand, it is also a way to move forward in life and get to know each other better.
10- Do I still love him?
This is the question, no doubt, the most important. And it is sometimes very difficult to answer. Just ask yourself if you can get up in the morning without seeing his face? If the answer is no, it's because you still love it and your relationship is just going through a difficult time. If the answer is yes, then you do not like it anymore and it's certainly a good time to tell him.
We consume more and more the couple as a Kleenex, we throw it when it no longer satisfies us. Do you find that your man is less attentive to you? too concerned about his work? Before making a hasty decision, explain to him how you feel. Feel free to see a marriage counselor, who may help you save your story.
2- Do I have a real future with him?
This is a crucial question. If you dream of having children while refusing to form a family, you are facing a serious dilemma. Because if you stay with him, you risk him for all your life and miss your biggest dream. When we are not on the same wavelength, we must have the courage to leave.
3- Will I find better than him?
We know what we lose but we do not know what we find. Observe the guys from your girlfriends. Between us, your man is not a hundred times better?
4- Does not I make a decision too hasty?
All marriage counselors agree that it takes at least three months to start asking questions. And at least as much to start answering. It's useless to rush and spoil everything. So, take some time to think.
5- Do I really have a good reason to leave?
If you want to leave it only because you have less desire for your man, it's a very bad reason. When you share a man's life for a long time, there are bound to be times when your sex life is less torrid, that's normal. Instead of leaving your man, try to find ploys to restore your sex life.
6- Am I able to forgive him?
He deceived you, you felt betrayed, humiliated. You think of leaving him for this infidelity. If you do not feel able to forgive him and trust him again, then you have to leave him better because otherwise you risk destroying yourself.
7-Will my mother recover?
Your man is the ideal son-in-law, your mother was all about him, you imagined to found a good family. In short, you risk to plunge it into a deep depression. Well, it's a non-admissible argument! Do not forget that one chooses by his man for his family, neither for his friends but for oneself.
8- Is not it also my fault?
It is important to question yourself. And finally, everything was not just your guy's fault, as you had a tendency to think. You surely also have your share of responsibility. Take stock of your past relationships, maybe you'll always act the same when you're upset. It may be time to mature ....
9- Am I strong enough to leave him?
Do not forget that it is a heavy choice of consequences. One must be psychologically prepared to face oneself. Relearning to live alone is often difficult. On the other hand, it is also a way to move forward in life and get to know each other better.
10- Do I still love him?
This is the question, no doubt, the most important. And it is sometimes very difficult to answer. Just ask yourself if you can get up in the morning without seeing his face? If the answer is no, it's because you still love it and your relationship is just going through a difficult time. If the answer is yes, then you do not like it anymore and it's certainly a good time to tell him.
