One way to bring to the other what he does not have : If it works between them, it may be because this type of couple balances. The most "old" brings his philosophy of life, his experience, his ability to withstand the hazards of everyday life when the youngest is blowing a breath of fresh air ... But this may well be the opposite because we can be very whimsical at 50 and already very assagi (e) at 25 or 30 years!

The feeling of living more intensely: When we know that we do not have, because of our age gap, a century to live together, we take full advantage of the time allotted to us. And we are less easily polluted by small irrelevant disputes.

An apprenticeship in tolerance: Train a couple which is not classic can open the mind. Because we are "different", we accept better those who are too. We become less sectarian towards others, especially compared to people who have a lifestyle or sexuality that does not look like ours.

Less fear of commitment: If youngsters (and youngsters) tremble with fear at the mere mention of the word marriage, it will not necessarily be the case with someone who is already on the road. He or she will be less refractory about this style of question.

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The pitfall of the substitute father or mother : For the couple hold the shock over time, it should not be built on the lack of one of the two spouses. If it is only a dad that we were looking for in our relationship with this man who is one or two decades older than us, it is not a sufficient basis to make it last!

The look of the outside that does not spare us : Even if we feel good together and the age gap does not pose a problem to one another, we must be able to face the many remarks of our entourage,Are you dredging out of school now?» « Did you come to introduce your son? And other perfidious replicas!

A shift in the way of understanding life and the future : It's not always easy to tune your violins when one has grown to the sound of the Beatles and the Rollings Stones and the other has been rocked by the 2Be3 and the Worlds Apart ... And we can also, at the inside the couple, do not be synchronous on things much less anecdotal: a young woman or a young man will often dream to have a baby when his companion or older companion (e) will not want to redo it for "to enjoy life »

The difficulty of being accepted by the children of the other : Finally, a big obstacle in the harmony of these couples is often the presence of children. A fortiori, if they are adults (even if they are the same age as the spouse of their father or mother), they can be very reluctant to accept the new half of their parent, when they do not they are not downright hostile ... The "seduce" is a real obstacle course, which everyone does not feel able to perform!

Age Difference in Relationships (April 2024)