Education: managing the rivalry with the mother of my man's children
Unfortunately, when we decide to redo his life, the lottery of love, we do not always fall on a man who has no past behind him, no ex-wife ... In short, you can not not always to be the first love of a man: this scenario, worthy of a film of the Paramount, is very different from the real life.
Make or remake your life with a divorced man is not without complications. You may have chosen a man but did not order the lots that accompany it: shared custody with children, support to manage, an ex-wife who is present in your life because she is the mother of children your fiance ...
Not always easy to handle all that ... the most important thing is not to be excluded from the relationship that your companion has with his past. Try to meet her ex once to get to know each other and show that you want to get involved, while keeping your distance, in the children's lives. During this meeting, show yourself confident and sure of yourself. She must understand that you do not want to be a surrogate mother but just the new companion of his ex.
Often, this kind of relationship with the ex is marked by rivalry, women sometimes feel that a man's past is always more important than their present ...
Anyway, you can not cut him from his past and his family obligations, even if it can be painful sometimes, as long as the relations with his ex are cordial ...
Our advice
All women have a need for emotional security that is not always easy to find. Instead of making movies, take a first step and meet to get to know each other better. You will then be able to better understand this woman and you will no longer be excluded from the relationship your man has with her.
Make or remake your life with a divorced man is not without complications. You may have chosen a man but did not order the lots that accompany it: shared custody with children, support to manage, an ex-wife who is present in your life because she is the mother of children your fiance ...
Not always easy to handle all that ... the most important thing is not to be excluded from the relationship that your companion has with his past. Try to meet her ex once to get to know each other and show that you want to get involved, while keeping your distance, in the children's lives. During this meeting, show yourself confident and sure of yourself. She must understand that you do not want to be a surrogate mother but just the new companion of his ex.
Often, this kind of relationship with the ex is marked by rivalry, women sometimes feel that a man's past is always more important than their present ...
Anyway, you can not cut him from his past and his family obligations, even if it can be painful sometimes, as long as the relations with his ex are cordial ...
Our advice
All women have a need for emotional security that is not always easy to find. Instead of making movies, take a first step and meet to get to know each other better. You will then be able to better understand this woman and you will no longer be excluded from the relationship your man has with her.
