Fine parents: an obstacle for my couple?
We find a Jules. He is handsome. He is intelligent. But he has parents. And when the presentation day has arrived, if everything went well it's already not bad. Then, if they are present it can be an asset. Especially if they are nice. Step-parents become a real obstacle for the couple when:
-They call without stop. The phone rings all the time and bets are won in advance for you as soon as you hear the ringing sound. Either mother-in-law wants to make sure everything is in order and that her bichon and her crumb are not cold. Either father-in-law is asking his son for help to be sure to use his Kindle properly. All the time. What is an obstacle is that not only your darling is permanently hooked to his laptop but in addition it always lasts. Even if he swears by big gestures, his ear taped to the handset, he does everything to shorten the conversation, the time spent on the phone with his parents, Jules simply does not pass it with you, who nevertheless live under the same roof as him and share his bed.
-It's a son to mom (or dad) (or both). In any case the separation between the three is difficult, each time, even at the end of Sunday lunches. Madame is constantly on the verge of tears and is over-worried as soon as her "chick" is no longer in her field of vision. What stands in the way, especially, is that your lover feels almost the same sadness during the "farewells" and always takes at least 20 minutes to recover. But damn it, you have to cut the cord!
-They criticize youn permanence. You have never been good enough for them, and despite all your efforts to be an exemplary daughter-in-law, they continue to denigrate you. What hinders your couple is that Loulou does not realize or take it lightly. So you want him to be so indulgent with his parents and you find him weak or cowardly. And as more is likely because when it touches the family, it stings, well you almost do not talk about both except loud shots ...
-They cover you with presents. Your in-laws are exceptional, but above all, far too generous. They offer you everything. The problem is that you are over fifteen and at thirty, you would like to assume alone (both) the whim of the espresso machine or giant plasma screen. Hard to refuse such presents, so expensive, but what hinders your couple is that precisely as such you need to build yourself (even materially speaking) yourself, without the excessive financial assistance of dad /mum.
The family is a sensitive ground. It's difficult to strike a balance between you and your darling and you and your in-laws. Your couple needs to flourish throughout life and its evolution should not be hindered, even if your in-laws are adorable. And even they should not interfere with it no matter how they do it, whether it is conscious or not.
