He works at night, me the day: how to find time for two?
You are at 35 hours, leave at 8:30 in the morning after bringing the children to school and come back at the end of the day. Until then, nothing abnormal. What complicates the deal is when your spouse works on weekends and at night. To summarize, when you do not hug, he yes and when you come home in the evening, he leaves.
In such circumstances, as much as to say that the couple life is more like a roommate because you do not do anything together anymore. On the one hand, you can not get tired of him since you do not see him. On the other hand, it's not the love story you dreamed about. And yet. Your girlfriends who take their heads every night with their guy to watch Desperate Housewives while there is a football game on the other chain keep telling you that you're lucky.
Find moments at two
To continue to spend a few moments together, it will be tricky:
In the morning, make your coffee and slip near him in the bed. The smell of toast could help open your eyes and earn you a kiss. (Watch out for crumbs in the bed, it could have the opposite effect and put him in a bad mood)
At noon, if your office is not far from home, set up a lunch together at least once a week. No need to make a four-star restaurant every time, even a shared sandwich on a lawn will do the trick because what matters to you is spending time together.
The nights he does not work, do not go out with your friends but do a movie or go for a drink.
On Friday, as you are not working the next day, send him a naughty text telling him to wake up as soon as he gets home. Even if it finishes late, it does not matter, you'll have the whole weekend to recover!
Testimony of Alexandra, 33 years old.
What is your job ?
I am commercial manager and my husband works in a restaurant.
How do you get to see you?
It is not obvious but we have instituted a ritual. One morning a week, as soon as I take the children to school, he meets me at the coffee shop downstairs and we have breakfast together. It's always a nice moment. In general we do this on Monday to start the week.
And the rest of the time?
We always send a small email in the day to get news and whatever happens we are called in the evening when the children are in bed and he takes his break.
Do not feel like a roommate?
At first I had this sensation and then we took the rhythm. What is great is that we live under the same roof but as we do not see each other, so every moment we spend together is intense and we have lots of things to tell us!
