March 28, 2024

Help, how not to give everything to him?

To preserve your love and please your darling, you give in. And that, whatever the subject: the color of the curtains, the table of the living room or the exit of Thursday. Yes but now, as the days go by, you end up erasing yourself completely, as if you were not really there anymore. But where did the women independent and spruce that you were?


Take back your life
Step by step, your man ended up modeling you in his own way, as if you were a doll. For him, you have dyed your hair, stopped wearing tight clothes, you even changed jobs so that your schedules are compatible. Stop! It's time to take control of your life!


In his book "The women unloved "(Payot small library), Mariela Michelena, psychoanalyst, speaks of"female submission ". The subject person "gets lost, dilutes in the other ". These are usually women the sentences they say such as "as you want", "yes it's good", "I understand" or "do not worry". As if they were unable to make any decisions for themselves.


Mariela Michelena then encourages them to ask the following question: "Dare you do something harmless if your man did not agree ?".


Set limits
Explain to your man that the situation is no longer tenable for you. You must relearn how to live, to listen to yourself and to say no.


And that's good, your darling may be waiting for that from you. The men like them women independent and who know how to be respected. Chouchou is waiting for you to say no to him.


Re-learn to assert yourself
Start with small concrete exercises. Decide for example the TV program or the Saturday night out. Be firm and hold on. And whatever the arguments put forward by your man


Then, keep fighting to defend your ideas and your person! You will see, Chouchou will ask for more.



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