March 29, 2024

Help, my guy is jealous!

He chokes me and puts me down
And it starts very early in the morning: at the time of dressing. "A skirt ?! You're crazy! With all the guys who go around to work!" Either, let's go for jeans. "Not that one, he's too tight!" Well, here we go for the baggy. "He is too low waist, we see your navel!" Grrr, what does he want? Whether you put on clown overalls or a ski suit? The same "attention to detail" is reserved for your T-shirts, your shirts, your sweaters, your underwear, even your shoes are too provocative or too sexy for his taste! Despairing ... Let's go to makeup. A little too much mascara and this is the scandal. The eyeliner is "vulgar". Not to mention lipstick and gloss: "Are you going to a date or what?"

Remember, a month ago when you came back from the hairdresser's. You thought to make him happy by going from dark brown to platinum blond. It's still him who hangs posters of Marilyn Monroe everywhere in the apartment! Result: an integral fiasco. "You look like a brainless bimbo, when is the 90F?" Charming...

He constantly monitors me
According to him, to live well with two, we must do everything to two. So, he does not let go of a sole. Shopping, you do it with him, whether you like it or not. Forgotten little sexy dresses and stiletto heels, it's sir who decides! The outings and parties between girls, it's over. At first, he accompanied you but the poor darling was bored or uncomfortable with your friends, so you preferred to cross over. Gradually, you isolate yourself a little more. By putting you in couple with him, you did not imagine having to abandon all the rest.

Your friends, your male colleagues are all a potential danger to him. It becomes paranoid as soon as you evoke them and comes close to the obsession. It works every time: you like someone, automatically he hates it. If he finally agrees to meet him, it's not for the right reasons, he just wants to make him understand that you are taken and that if necessary, he will come to the fists. Jealous, possessive and violent ... Your man is a love!

And to continue in its momentum, your half do not hesitate to search your phone, your mailboxes, your drawers and even your pockets. And beware of him if he finds something that displeases him, even a small innocent text that you had forgotten to talk to him! After this search, he comes to the news. As soon as you get back from the office, you feel like you're X-rayed and lying. It's exhausting !

It makes me doubt and puts our couple at risk
You come to ask yourself serious questions. Love without mutual trust is love? You thought you were building something with him, but his doubts keep you from moving forward. You do not feel like a normal and fulfilling couple and sometimes you are tempted to give up, to leave the game that seems lost in advance.

By being stifled, having to justify yourself permanently and never be serene, you need air. A small break might not hurt you. Your absence could make him think about his actions and realize that his behavior is putting your couple at risk. If he agrees to make efforts, establish new rules of living together.

Decide to spend a little time each one of your side, not to be glued permanently. Be firm and impose your conditions: interrogations, reflections on your outfits, threats of all kinds, it's past! He has to do some work on him to learn to trust you. You do not belong to him, he can not make all the decisions for you. If despite his efforts things do not change enough to your taste, opt for a couple therapy. History that he opens his eyes once and for all ...
 
 

How to Deal With A Jealous Partner (March 2024)