March 29, 2024

Holiday love: A seduction pro tells us about it ...

Patrick Harris, coach, author, journalist and speaker on www.coach-seduction.com


- Holidays and love ... is it compatible?

Of course ! While 70% of met between a man and a woman are made at the workplace, only 25% of couples meet in front of the coffee machine. This percentage is much higher in vacationeven if it is true that, for a legitimate problem of distance, the met in love with summer are certainly magical, but often ephemeral.

- Why do you think holidays are pretexts for romantic relationships?

Thanks, on the one hand, to the psychological process of "association". The partner is unconsciously associated with the values ​​of the holidays: relaxation, pleasure, freedom, sun ... On the other hand, nobody leaves in vacation in order to get bored! Sport is considered, relaxation, recreation, and a romantic relationship is a cherry on the cake ...

- Is the method of seduction on a daily basis and on vacation the same? How is it different?

The seduction must of course be adapted to its context, but the rules remain the same: it is the unconscious that decides the state of love, and not the conscious, that's why Pascal said: "the c for reasons that reason does not know. Seduce is therefore to convince the unconscious of the other, which reacts according to many multifactorial parameters, whether in vacation or elsewhere. Thus, the man unconsciously looks for the woman likely to make him beautiful children, and it is obvious that on sand, he can see more clearly the attractions of a fertile woman ...

- Are there dredge techniques to be avoided at all costs during the summer?

The dredge too obvious is always to be proscribed, in the sun or elsewhere, but in vacation, the smile of a woman does not have the same weight and the same consequences as in the metro ... As for the conversation, it is necessary to avoid the subject which opposes the circumstances: the work !!


- Are there any signs to decipher the nature of a holiday relationship? (True passion or simple love of holidays)

To observe the behavior of the man you want to seduce can be guessed whether a serious relationship can be established: does his attitude change over time? If he keeps the same face, the same empathy and the same communication during the first meetas well as waking up, it's probably because he does not envision a long-term relationship. But if he is transformed, if the will to please him makes him lose part of his means, if he becomes clumsy, if he suddenly feels the need to talk about his family, his friends and his successes, that's that he hopes for an affective relationship likely to last ... maybe ...

- What advice would you give our surfers for the summer?

I know many coaches who would answer this question: "stay yourself! Which, in my opinion, is a beautiful sophism, because if a seductress tries to increase her probabilities of success, she must improve, and if she has to improve, she must change! Communication as makeup, and this in every sense of the word ...
We all have a potential for seduction, a sort of reservoir that contains elements of seduction, such as culture, intelligence, beauty, humor ... One of these elements can be cultivated, and is essential: 'empathy. In vacation, a man has desires: he wants to go diving, windsurfing, ULM ... The seductress must be interested in these aspirations to create the attraction. By asking questions, she implicitly says to the other: "I consider you, you are important, you have value", which is an ideal ground for a tender and beautiful hug under the stars ...

Find Patrick Harris, coach, author, journalist and speaker on www.coach-seduction.com

 

 



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