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March 28, 2024

How to talk to my child about sexuality: Testimonials

Annie, 41, social worker

With my husband, we used to take a bath with our daughter Clara since she was a baby.
And then one day, at the age of 4, she began to ask a lot of questions about her daddy's zizi ...
She insisted so much that we said we had to stop taking a bath with her. And then the questions are over. I think it was healthy enough to make a clean cut. Later, a psychic friend told me that it was his oedipal period and that I had done well ... But at the time, I did not need to consult anyone.
These things are felt. It had to be limited, that's all. And without being explained anything, she understood of herself since she never spoke again about the zizi of his dad!

Cécilia, 28, accountant

My son Nicolas did not stop playing with his zizi when he was 3 years old ... Even at school! So much so that one day, his mistress made a remark to me because he had shown his zizi to two friends of his class during the break ... He had just entered kindergarten and, that day, it was the shame of my life! I even wondered if my child was not a little obsessed sex! I feel guilty and everything and everything.
And the idea that he started showing his zizi at school was unbearable.
So I took a deep breath and said, "These things do not happen, you do not have to show your zizi to anyone, it makes people angry."
He did not answer me at the moment but I think he understood because he never started again.

Souad, 31, nurse

When I was a nursing student, I did an internship in pediatrics and the doctor clearly explained to us that we had to talk simply and naturally about sexuality to children. At that moment, I said to myself "Fastoche!"

But when I became mum and that I found myself in this situation, I did less malin ...
One day, my son asked me, "How are babies made?" A classic question what. We were in the pediatrician's office for a vaccine reminder ... And there I made the link with the pregnant woman who was sitting next to us in the waiting room! But we had to be in front of the doctor to ask the question.
I was speechless, I did not expect it at all! Fortunately, the doctor took over and told him a story of seed. After every time we met a pregnant woman in the street, he said to me, "You see dad, he put a seed in the belly of the mum over there. "



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