mum
March 28, 2024

Mom, step mom: find her marks

When your child was born, it took a few weeks to find your gestures mum. Although some were innate, you still had to familiarize yourself with this new status, which is not the least. Life has meant that your story does not last with your child's father. This is so, and it happens to everyone; except that, what you did not necessarily foresee is to fall back in love ... with a dad.

 

But you are neither the first nor the last in this case, so rest assured and follow our advice. First step: tame another child's child. For this little one, you are necessarily the one who replaces his mother in the heart of his father. Fortunately for him, you are far from the poor mother-in-law of poor Cinderella. What you want is for this child to feel good with you. Of course, because you are already mumyou will have reflexes. It's not an easy task to be at the head of a family recomposed. Everyone has to find their place and this can sometimes take a little time.
 

Rule 1 : Be cuddled with your children and stepchildren. The gentle gestures you have with your own child must be the same towards your daughter-in-law or son-in-law so that he or she does not feel excluded. Any difference in habits between children in the same household would cause jealousy.


Rule 2: Do you find a little name. If it's an infant, it's likely to have a little trouble making a difference. That is to say that as you will have the same gestures of tenderness as his true mumit just makes sense for you to call you .... Mum. The first time, it will surprise you and not knowing that it is you he is calling, you may not answer him. This situation should not make you feel comfortable. Discuss with your partner and decide on a name that your child will give you. Most often, the child will decide to call you by your first name.


Rule 3: Do not neglect your own child. It is quite legitimate for a mum to care a little more for the child who is not his, so that he does not lack tenderness. If this is a nice touch, also pay close attention to the child that is yours. The latter can be quickly jealous and if it continues he could even be mean to his half-brother or half-sister in revenge. Be impartial with him as with the other.
 
Rule 4: Be consistent in your education
The golden rule no matter what happens is to be in osmosis with your spouse. Never argue with your children who understand that there is a flaw in the education you want to teach them. If you do not agree, wait until you are alone to discuss and decide on a course of action. Never contradict yourself in front of children because you will lose credibility.



Asking my stepmom to adopt me as her Christmas present. (March 2024)