mum
March 28, 2024

My little girl is a tomboy!

How to explain it?

She imitates her big brother!
If your little girl has a big brother, he will quickly become his model. Like him, she will play with games superhero, will be interested in football. It's a very natural reaction. She's just trying to share her older brother's passions. She will return to "girl stuff" later when she feels the need.

She seeks to please you.
It's enough for your little girl to have heard one day that you want a boy first for her to behave like a tomboy. This attitude often defines an evil being, so it is important to pay attention!

She's trying to get your attention.
Some girls who have trouble communicating with their children moms tend to annoy them. You are ultra feminine, sophisticated, she will try to differentiate yourself from you so that you are interested in her!

It's simply his temperament
. There is nothing worrying about a little girl trying to do judo, or feeling better surrounded by boys. One can be quite feminine while having tastes and activities of boys!

She is under your influence.
This last case is more complex. You are used to making many speeches about the place of the woman who must be the equal of the man, who must fight to get there. Your daughter does so may be a rejection of the woman. She adopts a man's behavior to avoid becoming a woman too fragile.

How to react ?

Do not be swayed by the diktats of society. Society has always needed to distribute social roles. From early childhood, especially with mixed crèches, children share their passions. Remember that a girl can enjoy playing with cars as a boy can love to cook. That's not why it's a problem!

Do not judge her!
You would have liked to talk about makeup, dresses with your daughter, never judge her by comparing her with other girls of her age. You risk traumatizing her when there is no reason to worry!

Do not forbid him to play with boys games!
You could cause the opposite effect to the one you desired. Just ban something for a child to do anything to get it!

Communicate with your daughter
! Find a moment to exchange with her, it will be an opportunity to ask him simply why she likes to play with guns, to disguise herself as a superhero ...

Talk to a child psychiatrist.
If you are lost, call a child psychiatrist. It can help you analyze and understand your child's behavior. Your little girl may come to confide more easily.

Avoid making hasty conclusions
. Many parents think that being a tomboy is a precursor to homosexuality. Do not forget that there is no indication that this or that child will be homosexual as an adult!
 
 


TOMBOY - PRINCESS NOKIA (March 2024)