My loved ones do not like my darling
"My parents do not approve of our relationship"
In this story, mom and dad did not especially show bad will, they tried to get to know your Jules, to know a little more about him, to make connections. But nothing to do, your parents feel he is not the man you need. The judgment may be hasty and it does not seem legitimate to you, but the result is the same: they constantly sermon you and try to bring you back to reason. "Your old boyfriend was much more polite, sociable and he had a real job, him!"
It must be said that your man does not excel when it comes to making a good impression. Very nature, he does not hesitate to say what he thinks, whether it likes it or not. Suddenly, the conversations with your father are stormy, and the latter does not appreciate being held up. Your mother remembers your man's head as he discovered the contents of his plate at the last family lunch. And he has understood since: we do not joke when it comes to the kitchen of step mom!
These are just examples, but your parents have thousands of reasons, more or less legitimate, not to appreciate your man. His social status, his situation, his religion, his manners, his physique, his political opinions, etc. Whatever the problem, you make your life with your half, not them. They have their say, but the last one comes back to you.
"My friends do not understand what I'm doing with him"
Your friends are very important to you, you give them total confidence and you are used to trusting their opinions. The problem is that their last sentence has just fallen: "Nah but frankly, you find him what?" ... It must be said that they know you well. They witnessed your last emotions, your heartbeat, your relations more or less wobbly, more or less happy. So, they want to avoid you the sorrows oflove unnecessary or unpleasant surprises.
Your Jules, they met him several times and the current never really passed. Not the same centers of interest, a misplaced humor, an ambient malaise. They reproach your half for not doing enough with them as with you. He is not considerate enough, not enough present, not enough invested to their liking. It worries them, and rather than hiding their concerns, they prefer to share it with you.
"You deserve better, you looked happier before, you make a mistake with him." It's their opinion, not yours! If, despite their warnings, your feelings towards the accused do not change, do not hesitate to be very clear: you are with him, whether they like it or not, they will have to do it.
Find common ground
When your loved ones are attacking your man, your first reflex is to defend him at all costs. But maybe you forget to ask yourself the right questions. Somehow, they must be right, there is surely truth in what they tell you. Thelove makes you blind and you tend to let everything go, simply because you feel for your half things that are beyond you. Try to be objective. The criticisms of your loved ones are not all unfounded, a good explanation with the interested could be beneficial to you and to make things move.
With some effort, the relationship between your spouse and those around you could change dramatically. A little less prejudices, distance, a little more respect and friendliness and voila! Your friends, your family They are very important to you, they know it, and if they care about you, they will make sure you fit in as well as you can. As for your loved ones, you count on them so as not to be too stubborn and you hope that they will accept the hand that tends them your man. Finally, the best solution is to try a new start!
In this story, mom and dad did not especially show bad will, they tried to get to know your Jules, to know a little more about him, to make connections. But nothing to do, your parents feel he is not the man you need. The judgment may be hasty and it does not seem legitimate to you, but the result is the same: they constantly sermon you and try to bring you back to reason. "Your old boyfriend was much more polite, sociable and he had a real job, him!"
It must be said that your man does not excel when it comes to making a good impression. Very nature, he does not hesitate to say what he thinks, whether it likes it or not. Suddenly, the conversations with your father are stormy, and the latter does not appreciate being held up. Your mother remembers your man's head as he discovered the contents of his plate at the last family lunch. And he has understood since: we do not joke when it comes to the kitchen of step mom!
These are just examples, but your parents have thousands of reasons, more or less legitimate, not to appreciate your man. His social status, his situation, his religion, his manners, his physique, his political opinions, etc. Whatever the problem, you make your life with your half, not them. They have their say, but the last one comes back to you.
"My friends do not understand what I'm doing with him"
Your friends are very important to you, you give them total confidence and you are used to trusting their opinions. The problem is that their last sentence has just fallen: "Nah but frankly, you find him what?" ... It must be said that they know you well. They witnessed your last emotions, your heartbeat, your relations more or less wobbly, more or less happy. So, they want to avoid you the sorrows oflove unnecessary or unpleasant surprises.
Your Jules, they met him several times and the current never really passed. Not the same centers of interest, a misplaced humor, an ambient malaise. They reproach your half for not doing enough with them as with you. He is not considerate enough, not enough present, not enough invested to their liking. It worries them, and rather than hiding their concerns, they prefer to share it with you.
"You deserve better, you looked happier before, you make a mistake with him." It's their opinion, not yours! If, despite their warnings, your feelings towards the accused do not change, do not hesitate to be very clear: you are with him, whether they like it or not, they will have to do it.
Find common ground
When your loved ones are attacking your man, your first reflex is to defend him at all costs. But maybe you forget to ask yourself the right questions. Somehow, they must be right, there is surely truth in what they tell you. Thelove makes you blind and you tend to let everything go, simply because you feel for your half things that are beyond you. Try to be objective. The criticisms of your loved ones are not all unfounded, a good explanation with the interested could be beneficial to you and to make things move.
With some effort, the relationship between your spouse and those around you could change dramatically. A little less prejudices, distance, a little more respect and friendliness and voila! Your friends, your family They are very important to you, they know it, and if they care about you, they will make sure you fit in as well as you can. As for your loved ones, you count on them so as not to be too stubborn and you hope that they will accept the hand that tends them your man. Finally, the best solution is to try a new start!
