Parent-child relationship: who decides? Who's ordering ?
Because they are afraid of being too tyrannical? Because they do not know how to take to set prohibitions and limits? Because they want to give some autonomy to their child? Be that as it may, parents admit to being too stressed and helpless about their toddler's reactions. 75% of parents consider themselves too little authoritarian with their children, according to a survey conducted by Ipsos for Femme Actuelle et Enfant Magazine. This study shows a clear tendency towards devaluation and guilt: 46% of parents have a bad image of themselves. Yet the role of the child is not to take advantage of his power over adults. In addition, mum and dad do him the greatest harm by letting him decide very early on their behalf. Because children can become manipulators and they will never be able to adapt to society.
Amazing numbers
70% of them are too stressed and 58% are totally helpless in relation to certain reactions of their child. They have the feeling of missing out on the childhood and adolescence of their child. 75% of respondents believe that it is harder to raise a child today than in the past. Regarding the general perception of the French on theeducationshe is not better. Lack of authority comes first with 71%. 66% of respondents think that parents have a "boyfriend / girlfriend" relationship, 61% feel they are too tolerant and 81% think they are not severe enough.
70% of parents feel that they have sometimes had too harsh reactions to the situation. And these inadequate reactions only show the distress of the parents, who at the end of an installed deficiency or a carelessness, react excessively by excess ... 'Christine Perrault, psychologist specializing in relationships family. 81% of parents oppose the ban on spanking.
To whom to entrust this complex task? Theschool ? The teachers feel that they are not there to do the work of the parents. Some believe that it is high time to leave the instruction to the faculty and restore theeducation to families. However, the parents ask the help of the public authorities, primarily in favor of theschool. And it seems that this theme is crucial for the next presidential election. 58% say that the program of the candidates for the election concerning the means allocated to theschool will have a significant influence on their vote. And 72% consider it essential that candidates take a stand on the management of violence againstschool.
They also note that the link between work and family life is cited as a factor favoring the hand over theeducation children. For 45% of households, it is essential that candidates in the presidential election take a stand on aids that allow a better reconciliation between professional and family life. 96% would like the public authorities to encourage companies to take measures to facilitate their daily lives: lengthening the duration of maternity leave, increasing the remuneration of parental leave ...
For Chantal Perrault, parents need to revisit their relationship with their children, that is to say, they resume their role and restore their authority. "The frustration is not a seizure but a learning to respect the rules.To say no to your little blonde head, decide in his place without asking his opinion, it is not risk his dislike, as fear so many parents on the contrary, it helps him to learn to live in a normed world, with its social constraints ".
Amazing numbers
70% of them are too stressed and 58% are totally helpless in relation to certain reactions of their child. They have the feeling of missing out on the childhood and adolescence of their child. 75% of respondents believe that it is harder to raise a child today than in the past. Regarding the general perception of the French on theeducationshe is not better. Lack of authority comes first with 71%. 66% of respondents think that parents have a "boyfriend / girlfriend" relationship, 61% feel they are too tolerant and 81% think they are not severe enough.
70% of parents feel that they have sometimes had too harsh reactions to the situation. And these inadequate reactions only show the distress of the parents, who at the end of an installed deficiency or a carelessness, react excessively by excess ... 'Christine Perrault, psychologist specializing in relationships family. 81% of parents oppose the ban on spanking.
To whom to entrust this complex task? Theschool ? The teachers feel that they are not there to do the work of the parents. Some believe that it is high time to leave the instruction to the faculty and restore theeducation to families. However, the parents ask the help of the public authorities, primarily in favor of theschool. And it seems that this theme is crucial for the next presidential election. 58% say that the program of the candidates for the election concerning the means allocated to theschool will have a significant influence on their vote. And 72% consider it essential that candidates take a stand on the management of violence againstschool.
They also note that the link between work and family life is cited as a factor favoring the hand over theeducation children. For 45% of households, it is essential that candidates in the presidential election take a stand on aids that allow a better reconciliation between professional and family life. 96% would like the public authorities to encourage companies to take measures to facilitate their daily lives: lengthening the duration of maternity leave, increasing the remuneration of parental leave ...
For Chantal Perrault, parents need to revisit their relationship with their children, that is to say, they resume their role and restore their authority. "The frustration is not a seizure but a learning to respect the rules.To say no to your little blonde head, decide in his place without asking his opinion, it is not risk his dislike, as fear so many parents on the contrary, it helps him to learn to live in a normed world, with its social constraints ".
