July 3, 2020

The man-woman friendship: it is possible?


In our time, the friendship between a man and a woman does not raise as many questions as in the past. Mothers have changed and this relationship once considered suspicious is becoming common today ... Today, even if we are still far from equality between men and women, parity in friendship is now normal and commonplace.

Like your friends of the same sex, a man friend will reassure you in your moments of doubt: your seduction, yourself, your abilities and help you to climb the slope in case of a hard blow ...

This friend who loves you may have been one of your lovers in the past and today, the feelings that unite you remain of thelovebut devoid of sex, in its purest form.

Some people think that this relationship schema is inherently ambiguous, that sooner or later, one or the other will try a love approach because of the complicity that can exist between the two people.

This scenario is obviously possible, in many cases a rapprochement takes place and the two friends fall into each other's arms: this often happens in a moment of weakness, a blow of blues, a sentimental break, a decline of regime. .

It can not be denied that some ambiguity between two beings with a game of seduction ...

The foundations of friendship are loyalty, loyalty, support, listening ... What differentiates a friendly relationship from a relationship is the absence of rivalry and the desire to dominate.

We are still the victims of an education full of clichés and stereotypes that influence our relationships with others and our perception.

For example, a man who received a patriarchal education, placing the man above everyone in the family, with clichés about ubiquitous male / female relationships, will be less likely to develop a friendship with a woman than a person who has evolved in an environment where difference between the sexes is less marked ...

Conversely, a woman who has always evolved in a masculine universe will have more friendships with the opposite sex, she will be influenced in her approach to relationships through the education she has received.

Sometimes, too, in the "friendly" couple that you form, love feelings can awaken for just one of you. How to manage this new love configuration? How to overcome his own feelings so as not to condemn this "friendship? love on which you count all the same? In this case, if you feel that these feelings are not reciprocal, it is wiser to give up ... Your relationship can take on your side another, more complex: stay tuned to its slightest torment, the listening to detail about his sexual prowess and other adventures can be painful ...

Male / female relationships remain of great complexity because the seduction can at any time make you play bad tricks and rush into the love trap ...
With same-sex friendships, at least the desire sexual is less common ...

But for all that, the opinions of people who are lucky enough to know a beautiful friendship are unanimous: a man-woman friendship is of the same nature as a relationship: complicity, trust and respect but without desire sexual ... "It's even more rewarding than a fiancé because we know that this relationship will always last ... "
 
Our advice
If you you have the misfortune to fall in love with your best friend, without these reciprocal feelings, you could lose a beautiful relationship by revealing the nature of your feelings, so a tip: shut up and make a reason ...



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