What they expect from life together
When we meet Corinne, we immediately think she is "good in her sneakers" and has a strong character. Choir, yoga, evenings with friends ... the young woman multiplies the activities, alone or in groups. A way for her to meet new people, expand her network of friends or perhaps fill an emotional void?
Not at all.
"Sometimes it seems like, Corinne remarks, that it's bothering to be alone and happy! When you're feeling good about yourself, arriving with a smile somewhere is more pleasant and we attract more attention. I do not mind doing things alone. "
Among the cliches of the "single woman", we often hear of "bad character", or "search of the ideal companion". Again, Corinne does not hesitate to say what she thinks: "Why do we always think that a single is unbearable, even downright "boring"? In the same way, we do not always stay alone because we are running after Prince Charming! I am aware that theman ideal does not exist, like the woman elsewhere. I am ready to accept a man with its imperfections, and even if I do not ask for the moon, I would like him to protect me, to be tender and to make me laugh. If I meet a man with whom I feel that something nice can happen, it will obviously have room in my life. Be in coupleit means sharing, being together but also keeping your own passions and why not discover them to your partner. Ten years ago I would have told you the opposite, that a couple had to be fusional, but to see the couples around me and the way society evolves, I do not believe couple taped 24/24 h is viable over time. "
Cuddly, however Corinne admits some blues from time to time. There is no question of moping about her status as a single woman. She is not obsessed with her biological clock and her entourage no longer sticks to the pressure because at "her age" she is not yet married! "In the meantime, I'm just enjoying life."
Laure: the fear of a new failure
For three years, Laure, 25, has been single and admits being fed up. Loneliness is hard to live with, especially when the family is far away and friends singles put themselves in couple one after the other. This little brunette with a mischievous look badly experienced the end of his previous story and seems to protect himself from another failure.
"It is true that I am afraid to undergo a rupture again and unconsciously I do not open myself to other meetings," she says. Especially since I know myself: as I am enthusiastic very quickly, I go to the quarter turn when a boy is interested in me, I must be vigilant. "Laure confides that she does not get much flirting." I sometimes feel that boys are afraid of girls rather like me. In the evening they go more willingly to girls looking for adventure. Maybe I'm not sexy enough, pretty woman, but hey I want to stay myself. "
"Since I live in Paris, meetings are less easy, I would even say that here, be single is almost a fashion. It may also be the world of work that wants it, different from that of students. We meet a lot of people, but we rarely see them again. "
Over the course of the discussion we feel at Laure a deep wish to live in coupleeven if you feel it somewhat reluctant. Does she sincerely want to make room for a man in his life? "I'm afraid I do not know anymore, you get used to managing your life on a solo basis, I know that I'm not too complicated to live on a daily basis, so it should not be a problem the day I meet man with whom I will be well. "
"I suffer from not being able to share with a companion the beautiful things that I live, but also less pleasant. couple it is above all to share, to have a complicity: if the two are on the same wavelength, it's ok, but the fusional side is not for me I think life is long enough not to be glued without stop ... "
