An ex comes back to the charge: should we see him again or not?
You had finally turned the page
You had decided to NEVER see him again. It was necessary to move on and meet someone who really suited you. After all he had done to you, it was impossible anyway to do otherwise. A question of dignity.
Several buckets of tears later, you finally recovered from this story. It was finally over to think of him every day. It's as if he never really existed. A small victory, what.
Suddenly he reappears
And yet one fine morning, he poke you on Facebook. You do not answer. He sends you an SMS: "We have a drink, it would be nice to see you again from the time".
At first flattered, you say to yourself "Ah I still count for him anyway". It boosts your ego and makes you think back to your couple.
And then, comes this damn period of nostalgia where all of a sudden we only think about the good times with him, he was tender and attentive, his little gifts, this magical restaurant where you both went ...
And you are falling gently into the love. You want to see him again. But is it really a good idea to revive the desire ?
Review it if ...
-You are with another man that you love to madness. No risk of relapse.
-You dropped it on a misunderstanding. You realized too late.
Beware: the misunderstanding must be justified and should not be used as an excuse if you know deep inside you that it was anything but a misunderstanding.
-Refer it if you are in good shape and you feel good in your life right now. Even if you are still single, you will be able to balance things out.
As the talented Mathieu Madenian tells in his one-man show where we laughed a lot "When we see his ex, it is often the contest of the one who is better." (Theater of Treviso, from Tuesday to Saturday at 8 pm www.mathieumadenian.com)
Yes, imagine that your ex tells you that he has found the woman of his life, absolute happiness etc. then you do not at all ... You must be prepared to hear this unbearable happiness to know if you will take it well , or not.
Do not see him again if ...
-You still love him. You will go back, that's for sure.
-You are nostalgic of good times. We stop you right away: think about the bad moments in your story couple !
If you're gone it's mostly because of the bad times, the review would only revive bad memories.
-You think that if he reminded you is that he loves you ... Know that many men, in times of scarcity love, have the annoying habit of recalling their ex. Sorry for your pride but it's a statistically proven fact. They give in to ease, thinking that if they've had you once, they can have you again without problems. Uh, not sure, no?
"He is a man of women, he deceived you with the whole earth. Do not imagine that he has changed. An inveterate seducer does not turn into a potential husband faithful overnight. Even if he juuuuuuuure he has changed.
-He harassed you for days and days after breaking up, sending you bouquets of flowers and sweet little words for you to come back. Do you say that if at the time you said no, there was a TRUE good reason, remember which one and miraculously you will decide not to see it again.
- A girlfriend told you the story of this girl who saw her ex and discovered that he was the man of his life. Since they got married and they are so happy ... Ok, it happens but it's rare, stay lucid.
If it did not work with your ex it might be because it did not work. Quite simply.
