Dealing with authority issues
A mother like the others
Mom of a 4-year-old boy and mother-to-be of a new little guy, Isabelle has been confronted with the problems of authority that all parents.
It is precisely by gleaning information from her friends (already moms) that she realizes that parents find themselves often helpless in the face of the behavior of their child. All children go through the same phases, especially that of opposition to parental authority. They build their characters and the role of parents is to accompany them in their development.
"The conflicting relationships of a child with its parents are quite normal and necessary, the whole thing is to know how to answer him, to teach him how to control his anger and his caprices to make him grow up. To have this approach of the role of parent is to love his child ", says Isabelle.
A book to help moms
Isabelle has surrounded herself with two friends (a journalist and a psychotherapist), to write this book she wished "practical", with testimonials from friends, from people who wrote to her and even from her own experience as a mother. . For each situation she gives us her advice, her tricks (which work, they tested them!) And the opinion of the psychiatrist.
In the topics covered: the famous "no", very common among children from 1 to 2 years, is analyzed by the psychiatrist as a notion of power that thechild seeks to acquire. One of the recommended tips is "to try to avoid the closed questions to which thechild can only answer yes or no. Do not ask your child if he wants to drink milk but rather how much milk he wants to drink. "
"The authority, my child and me ", testimonials and advice, Isabelle Brès, editions of Toucan, 9,90?
How is authority exercised
Being a parent is a 100% job, it is a difficult task, but you must never give up.
Exercising authority is structuring one's child, protect him and give him love. A simple example: "how to teach a child to swim, if we can not be heard, if your child do not you listen? In education, "the best is the example": how to say to a child to not say big words if you think? Logic but not always respected.
There are painful moments, but so many happy moments. You have to learn to excel, to give the best of oneself to succeed in the education of one's child. "Raise a childis to bring a being towards the best of himself. "
And when we are out of date
We must accept to be helped, whether by relatives or doctors. We are not always on top and we do not always have all the keys. There is nothing wrong with not knowing how to handle a difficult situation or being angry at child. We must not feel guilty, on the contrary we must talk about it and it does not mean that you do not like it. On the other hand, not talking about it can lead to serious situations (like cases of shaken babies).
When should I see a child psychiatrist?
As soon as we feel that we have reached the end, that we no longer see a way out, that the dialogue is broken. But one can also decide to consult upstream, for example during a separation, the parents can make an appointment with a practitioner to give them advice on how to approach the topic with their child.
