Infidelity, we admit it or not? The pros and the cons
Why say everything
Because verbalizing can serve as an electroshock : When the feelings are still present between him and you but that it is accompanied by a lot of suffering, that you have the sensation to find you in a communicative impasse because your partner of life does not listen to you or neglects you, the act of to blame him for this raw truth can act like a club-shot that will compel him to look at your marital problems in the face. If he is truly committed to you, he will eventually forgive the misbehavior and understand the importance of getting more involved in your relationship.
Because it frees you from an intense sense of guilt
If the pleasure that this stroke of the pen in the contract has given you has been momentary, the remorse that has been chasing you ever since is, for its part, much more tenacious. So if you can not forgive this infidelity and that it gnaws at the point of no longer succeeding in living normally, decide to sit down to table and tell the man of your life (the true) what happened. You expose yourself to the break but you discharge yourself at the same time a psychological burden that it was increasingly difficult for you to wear ...
Because you demand the same attitude from him
Do you expect from him the most perfect transparency and could not stand to hide an "accident" of this importance? So be consistent with yourself and get inspired by the adage "Do not make others what you would not like us to do to you...
Because it is better that he does not learn it from a third person
If your getaway has had witnesses and it is possible that the echo of it comes back to the ears of your darling, better take the lead and talk to him before someone does it to your place....
Why not say anything
Because you know that you can not forgive
For having already discussed with him, you know his point of view on the subject: because of his ex who deceived him with the whole district or by personal conviction, he finds inconceivable the idea of being able to forgive a infidelity ? Morality: motus and mouth stitched!
Because it was a totally sporadic act
Everyone who practices it on a daily basis knows it well: to build and maintain a couple is a long-term work that requires both patience and stubbornness. If you went off the right path once and you are sure you do not want to repeat the experience, you do not need to destroy in an instant what you have taken so long to build.
Because you cheated on him to do you good and not to hurt him
This infidelity that you granted yourself did not happen at random in your life. At a time when you have doubts about yourself, your sex appeal, your femininity, it has allowed you to regain self-confidence, to build up your self-confidence. So only positive, as long as you keep this feat to yourself because revealing it would have the opposite effect on your "legitimate" lover. Keep this beautiful souvenir in your little secret garden but make sure it never goes out ....
