The couple facing infertility: How can the couple resist? Interview with a psychologist
What are the repercussions of sterility on the couple?
The announcement of a sterility always have impacts on a couple. The dynamics of the couple evolve because the future parents usually have to wait several months, or even several years before seeing their wish come true. This expectation mixed with frustration necessarily involves a more intense and constructive dialogue between the two partners.
Can it strengthen a couple?
Indeed, we see in the vast majority of couples that the trials they go through tend to strengthen, to weld their couple. Their complicity develops because it is necessary that each one of them feel supported by the other and even more united face this third party who breaks into their marriage.
The most difficult to live for an "infertile" couple?
First, the very announcement of this news! It can be a real shock, difficult to integrate. There are also all the stages of the Medical Aid to Procreation: the appointments and the waiting of the results between each examination and its corollary, the necessary acceptance of not being the only one (e) to master this desire for a child. But beyond that, I think the most difficult to live with are all the feelings and emotions that accompany the ad and its stages. Feelings of shame, injustice, and most importantly, feelings of guilt are quite pregnant.
How to avoid the explosion of the couple?
It is the dialogue between the partners that will avoid the explosion of the couple. Dialog together what you feel helps maintain your mobilized energy towards this common desire: it also allows you to remember that it is precisely because we love each other, that we want to become three .
What advice can we give couples in the process of LDCs to live this event more serenely?
A couple in the course of PMA has just any interest in decentering. PMA, by the importance of its purpose, can indeed be easily and quickly invasive in the daily life of a couple but also in the psyche of the spouses. Do not hesitate to write clearly on a common calendar the future stages of the PMA in order to free you at least and allow you to see all those free times where you will be able to enjoy each other, in love. ..
The announcement of a sterility always have impacts on a couple. The dynamics of the couple evolve because the future parents usually have to wait several months, or even several years before seeing their wish come true. This expectation mixed with frustration necessarily involves a more intense and constructive dialogue between the two partners.
Can it strengthen a couple?
Indeed, we see in the vast majority of couples that the trials they go through tend to strengthen, to weld their couple. Their complicity develops because it is necessary that each one of them feel supported by the other and even more united face this third party who breaks into their marriage.
The most difficult to live for an "infertile" couple?
First, the very announcement of this news! It can be a real shock, difficult to integrate. There are also all the stages of the Medical Aid to Procreation: the appointments and the waiting of the results between each examination and its corollary, the necessary acceptance of not being the only one (e) to master this desire for a child. But beyond that, I think the most difficult to live with are all the feelings and emotions that accompany the ad and its stages. Feelings of shame, injustice, and most importantly, feelings of guilt are quite pregnant.
How to avoid the explosion of the couple?
It is the dialogue between the partners that will avoid the explosion of the couple. Dialog together what you feel helps maintain your mobilized energy towards this common desire: it also allows you to remember that it is precisely because we love each other, that we want to become three .
What advice can we give couples in the process of LDCs to live this event more serenely?
A couple in the course of PMA has just any interest in decentering. PMA, by the importance of its purpose, can indeed be easily and quickly invasive in the daily life of a couple but also in the psyche of the spouses. Do not hesitate to write clearly on a common calendar the future stages of the PMA in order to free you at least and allow you to see all those free times where you will be able to enjoy each other, in love. ..
