The five golden rules to break gently
Bring it gradually to breaking
Even if you are convinced of the outcome, too much haste in your way of doing things is not advisable. Before announcing the fateful "it's over," mark the ground by spacing your appointments or cuddles, stopping to use the "I love you", "my darling" and other sweet little words. In short, show yourself less present and less affectionate. What will prepare him psychologically - at least a little - what you will tell him ...
Spend time on the case
Even if the temptation is great to swing the thing by SMS or between two doors before he goes to work, do not give in! Plan a real time around a coffee or a meal, give your future ex space so he can express his sadness and / or his resentment.
Do not put yourself in reproach mode
Rather than claiming that you leave him because he is an immature pathologically attached to his mother or because his depressive side falls on you (which is not far from the truth), choose instead to say that your feelings are not more than they used to be. But that you do not regret any of the moments you spent with him.
Do not give unnecessarily hurtful details
Avoid the same way to tell him that it was only a transitional guy or a bandage to forget your ex. If, on his side, he was ambitious to take you in front of the Mayor and to make you a gaggle of children, his dreams could explode him suddenly in the face and hurt him badly.
Do not show the new love of your life
And if a third person motivated this separation and even if the person in question is a kind of hybrid Ryan Gosling (for the physical) and Einstein (neurons side), resist the urge to show you right away by his side. And shout your happiness on the rooftops ... Imagine how you would feel if you saw your neo-ex parading the day after your breaking, with a look-alike Eva Mendes with big IQ!
