Learn how to handle my child's shyness
Concrete examples of shyness
The children shy people are often loners because they feel more protected in their bubble than in direct contact with others. This concerns children of different ages but also adults. Generally, children shy play alone in the playground, and rarely mix with their peers. Sometimes, when you try to get them out of their bubble, they can feel assaulted and react by blushing, retracting and isolating themselves further, crying, or even getting angry. The reason: you have entered their sphere of intimacy where they feel safe and you have "passed" the protective barriers they had erected to the outside world and in which they feel good. The children On the other hand, shy people are very comfortable with their parents, with whom they like to take refuge in case of an uncomfortable situation for them.
Where does the phenomenon of shyness come from?
At the origin of this phenomenon which is no other than a handicap: parents and educators. A child shy is by essence a child who lacks self-confidence and esteem. And this image he has of him is the one that his parents send back to him, which does not allow him to assert himself as he is, or even educators too authoritarian or directive. In short, adults who are for him references and who do not leave him free to express themselves and act as he would like to do. A child shy will be upset as soon as a situation is changed: departure of parents on arrival at school, request of a teacher to speak in front of the class ... resulting in a real feeling of inferiority and endangerment, then These everyday events should, on the contrary, go without a hitch.
How to react to a shy child?
Without doing too much, you have to put thechild forward as much as possible. At each positive step (speaking in public, playing with his peers, directing himself ...), you must let him know that his behavior is the right one. Why not play with him to "make theater" by giving him the main role, motivating him first to replay the scene in front of the family? Giving him a taste for fun and artistic activities, such as painting and modeling, and encouraging him to present his works to those around him are also good solutions. The main source of satisfaction will be for thechild shy to be listened to, watched, and understood.
