1. Separate yourself well and truly
The mourning can be done the better the separation has been very clear and very clearly expressed. Avoid crooked games that blur the separation.
It is not uncommon for someone who wants to leave his partner to make the decision come from the other. These guilt manipulations do not help to clarify things. Some couples no longer live together but drag out the divorce process. Again, it does not help to move on. Also be careful not to be in the protection of the other, which often results in nothing being said or moving.

2. Distinguish the person from what they represent
In the work of mourning, it is essential to separate well the being that we loved and what it represented for us (our youth, an ideal of happiness ...). Sometimes it is this chimera we miss, more than the real person. The being that one has loved then becomes irreplaceable in the mind of the one who has been left.

3. Leave the common nest
It is very advisable not to live in the place where the couple lived. Again, to move on, it is better to physically go out of common memories. It is therefore preferable that each partner take a new apartment each from his side.

4. Get started in new activities
To change the ideas, why not take advantage of this new freedom (even if it is constrained), to get into activities that have been trying for a long time?
Sport, community life, cultural activity ... A tip: turn rather to group activities to avoid isolating yourself. Obviously, avoid seeing too many people in couplesit's not the right moment!

5. Accept a decline in diet 
Be patient, because to mourn someone, it usually takes two or three years. Separation causes physiological and hormonal changes. This results in a weakening of the body and immunity. This is perfectly normal.
After one breakingIt is not uncommon for female libido to experience a significant drop due to the love injury and these hormonal changes. In humans, it reactivates the fragility of sexuality. After having sex with the same person for several years, one can also feel "beginner" and experience difficulties.

6. Do not rush into a new relationship
For fear of being alone, you may want to get involved right away in a new relationship, but it is better to be lucid about the future of this one. Beware of dating sites that sometimes give the illusion that we will find the ideal being. Tell yourself that a real story can only begin when you have completed your grieving work.

7. Find the pleasure of seducing
Do not refuse short-term conquests that will help you regain your self-confidence and heal your wounds smoothly. Provided that it remains a correct game vis-à-vis the other and not a way to "avenge" you.

8. Parents, reassure your children!
Explain and show your children that you both stay with your parents and that if the marital bond is broken, the parental bond remains. Make a difference, with them between your adult decision as couple and your responsibility as parents.
Without tearing you apart, it is better that your separation does not go "too well" and that you are no more friends after your separation than before, otherwise your children will not understand why you separated.

9. Make things clear with loved ones 
Often the friends of one have become those of the other. The left is sometimes not only without a spouse, but also without friends ... Be as clear as possible with your family, friends or family, so they do not feel obliged to choose one or the other, either leaving them out of your stories, either by explaining things together.

10. Take advantage of this separation
Know how to learn from this painful experience. For that, one must be able to share the responsibilities of this failure. When the person who is left puts everything on the back of the other, the reconstruction will be longer and difficult because it remains in the settlement of account. You can not redo your life on a feeling of rancor.If you feel deeply depressed or feel that you are not moving forward, do not hesitate to consult a psychotherapist who can be of great help to you.

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