Marriage: They said NO at the last moment!
Testimonials
"I canceled because of my first love who was present at the wedding ..."
Ghislaine, 40, Lisieux. "I was really ready to get married. I went out with Henry for 8 years, it was a thoughtful decision and I was happy. As I approached my future husband at church, I saw my first love Laurent, it was like a click, he looked at me and all of a sudden nothing else existed, I did 3 steps back and I fled ... A real movie scenario. Today I share Laurent's life, it's crazy destiny ... ".
"I was afraid of commitment"
Coralie, 22, Lyon. "I was with Jean for 8 months, a passionate relationship without clouds. On a whim while we were in college, he asked for my hand. I was very excited, my girlfriends too. Everything was organized. Two minutes before entering the town hall, I had an anxiety attack. All of a sudden, I became aware of the real commitment, I realized that I was going to live all my life with him, whereas I had known very few men until now. At the moment the mayor asked me the famous question, I said NO ... Today Jean forgave me and we stayed close ".
"I realized we were only good friends"
Charlotte, 38, Paris. "12 years that I lived with Pierre with ups and downs. All our friends were getting married, starting a family. Pierre told me about wedding and I said yes, but without real enthusiasm, just to respond to social pressure. The day of weddingI spoke with my mother and realized that I was no longer in love with him, that we had become good friends. It took me a long time to admit it, but being at the foot of the wall made me realize what I really wanted. Just before entering the church, I spoke to Pierre, he was very fond of me, even today and I understand it.
"I said NO because of my parents-in-law"
Marie, 32, Val d'Isère. "Just before entering the town hall to marry Pierre, my mother-in-law kept commenting on my outfit," my mother criticized. "In short, I realized that I would have to endure it for many years. And as my companion is completely under his influence, I could not do anything, I turned around and I left with my best friend, leaving everyone behind me.
The opinion of the psychiatrist
How do you explain that some women say NO at the last moment?
You have to know that there is a real social pressure around wedding like around the maternity elsewhere. This social pressure then pushes to take into account the choices of "society" rather than his personal wishes. It can also be the spouse who pushes the other to get married when he does not really want it. It is at the foot of the wall that one realizes his real desires and that is why we say "no" at the last moment.
"I canceled because of my first love who was present at the wedding ..."
Ghislaine, 40, Lisieux. "I was really ready to get married. I went out with Henry for 8 years, it was a thoughtful decision and I was happy. As I approached my future husband at church, I saw my first love Laurent, it was like a click, he looked at me and all of a sudden nothing else existed, I did 3 steps back and I fled ... A real movie scenario. Today I share Laurent's life, it's crazy destiny ... ".
"I was afraid of commitment"
Coralie, 22, Lyon. "I was with Jean for 8 months, a passionate relationship without clouds. On a whim while we were in college, he asked for my hand. I was very excited, my girlfriends too. Everything was organized. Two minutes before entering the town hall, I had an anxiety attack. All of a sudden, I became aware of the real commitment, I realized that I was going to live all my life with him, whereas I had known very few men until now. At the moment the mayor asked me the famous question, I said NO ... Today Jean forgave me and we stayed close ".
"I realized we were only good friends"
Charlotte, 38, Paris. "12 years that I lived with Pierre with ups and downs. All our friends were getting married, starting a family. Pierre told me about wedding and I said yes, but without real enthusiasm, just to respond to social pressure. The day of weddingI spoke with my mother and realized that I was no longer in love with him, that we had become good friends. It took me a long time to admit it, but being at the foot of the wall made me realize what I really wanted. Just before entering the church, I spoke to Pierre, he was very fond of me, even today and I understand it.
"I said NO because of my parents-in-law"
Marie, 32, Val d'Isère. "Just before entering the town hall to marry Pierre, my mother-in-law kept commenting on my outfit," my mother criticized. "In short, I realized that I would have to endure it for many years. And as my companion is completely under his influence, I could not do anything, I turned around and I left with my best friend, leaving everyone behind me.
The opinion of the psychiatrist
How do you explain that some women say NO at the last moment?
You have to know that there is a real social pressure around wedding like around the maternity elsewhere. This social pressure then pushes to take into account the choices of "society" rather than his personal wishes. It can also be the spouse who pushes the other to get married when he does not really want it. It is at the foot of the wall that one realizes his real desires and that is why we say "no" at the last moment.
To dare to say no, is it brave according to you?
Extremely! Because the person who suddenly says no to an assembly will see the eyes of his spouse, his family, his friends, but also the guilt of the expenses incurred for a wedding. She will surely be judged. It's more courageous to say no on D-Day than to cancel wedding a few months later.
