Testimonials: they have a lover, must we confess to her husband?
If some dream of the wedding dress, the pavilion and the pretty family ... After the first years, sometimes they are suffering from the demon of theinfidelity, that little inner voice that drives us to experience our seductive abilities. At the risk sometimes to yield to the temptation of theinfidelity !
The reasons for theinfidelity
The routine in the couple, the desire to change or spice up his sex life can lead toinfidelity. If some live badly having a double life, others assume and find their fulfillment. Exhilarating, passionate this new relationship plays a vital role in their balance and self-esteem. Sometimes, on the contrary, it is the chance of meet, a thunderbolt that pushes them in the arms and the bed of another, at the risk of breaking their union.
Anaïs, 31 years old
? ' I love two men at once: my husband and my lover ... I can not make a choice ...? ' This pattern is quite possible but does not last in time, explain the psychologists. A woman can love with the same intensity two men but will arrive the moment when one will necessarily take over. Moreover daily makes difficult the long-term coexistence of a double life.
Véronique, 45,
? ' I could not keep my secret ... I was too tortured by my lie and confessed to my husband ... He left me and I realized that I loved him ... I finished to leave my lover ... my husband never forgave me ... I feel like I ruined everything? '
Must we confess?
Whatever happens ! Never confess! What good is it to make the other suffer? It is useless to confess that one has been unfaithful, because often they are relations that do not last even if they are lived very intensely on the moment. To confess is also to discharge one's fault on the other by making him feel guilty. In a couple, you can not tell everything, some things can be kept for yourself.
Our advice
Deceiving a spouse is always a symptom that something is wrong with the couple. Try to understand the reasons for your infidelity and take stock of yourself, with outside help, if needed.
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