Tips for being obeyed by your children
There are so many types ofeducation that there are individuals on Earth. Because not only parents educate with their personality but also adapt to the child they have in front of them!
The first point to be obeyed is to have clear, short and precise orders, essential in the parent-child relationship. Especially since the children are small. It is useless to drown the children in great speeches and in great justifications.
Limits are also asked in a simple and effective way. And are valid for all members of the family ! A child is always testing boundaries, regardless of age. The authority is to apply rules that are valid for everyone and to stick to them. If X has a waiver, Y will take the opportunity to negotiate one too. And why would not he get it too?
The explanation the reason for the requested act is, of course, recommended, but only after the child has been executed; the child feels all the more valued when he has the explanation after. For there is no negotiation in the act of obedience. Obeying, for a child, must become a natural attitude.
The gronderies are constructive: there is a difference between screaming uncontrollably and being unhappy and explaining why. Your child also sometimes has the right to be angry but not to scream. It's the same for us: we are intelligent, communicative beings, and as parents we show how to behave, including in the human feeling of anger.
The punishment is an act of the most discussed by psychologists and educational textbooks. In general, a punishment must always be adapted in importance to the size of the stupidity. It is announced, applied and explained. Once the decision to punish taken, stick to it, even if you have doubts.
Our advice
Your child (ren) expect you to be consistent and of trust. When you have made a decision, stick to it at all costs. Because a bad decision applied with confidence is more constructive than a vague decision and opens the door to negotiations.
The first point to be obeyed is to have clear, short and precise orders, essential in the parent-child relationship. Especially since the children are small. It is useless to drown the children in great speeches and in great justifications.
Limits are also asked in a simple and effective way. And are valid for all members of the family ! A child is always testing boundaries, regardless of age. The authority is to apply rules that are valid for everyone and to stick to them. If X has a waiver, Y will take the opportunity to negotiate one too. And why would not he get it too?
The explanation the reason for the requested act is, of course, recommended, but only after the child has been executed; the child feels all the more valued when he has the explanation after. For there is no negotiation in the act of obedience. Obeying, for a child, must become a natural attitude.
The gronderies are constructive: there is a difference between screaming uncontrollably and being unhappy and explaining why. Your child also sometimes has the right to be angry but not to scream. It's the same for us: we are intelligent, communicative beings, and as parents we show how to behave, including in the human feeling of anger.
The punishment is an act of the most discussed by psychologists and educational textbooks. In general, a punishment must always be adapted in importance to the size of the stupidity. It is announced, applied and explained. Once the decision to punish taken, stick to it, even if you have doubts.
Our advice
Your child (ren) expect you to be consistent and of trust. When you have made a decision, stick to it at all costs. Because a bad decision applied with confidence is more constructive than a vague decision and opens the door to negotiations.
