What men do not dare tell us
"The new man" expresses his emotions
In recent years, men have changed a lot, accepting their feminine part, their sensitivity. Even though the patriarchal model has a hard life, this man recognize his yin, his anima. The patriarchate, which made both gender rivals tend to disappear in the west. The men have realized that they too are victims of this repressive system for women.
These changes in the male's head have improved his relationship with his partner. What makes theman new is the relationship. He has changed his communication, speaks, expresses his emotions and listens to those of his companion.
"Liberated women do not caress!"
For its part, the woman has experienced a fair revolt, which has sometimes resulted in the imitation of male behaviors denounced. These women, whom Gérard Leleu describes as "amazons", are harsh, vindictive and scare away men. In wanting to liberate themselves, they have adopted male transgressions, and contribute to perpetuate the war between gender.
In her foreword, Gérad Leleu remembers: "I remembered this woman I adored, admired and fervently caressed for hours ... One day, arriving home half-curved by a bad lumbago (I would have had to stay in my bed rather than slip into his), I asked him to kindly caress, even massaging a little, my loins, which attracted me this reply: "I'm not your geisha, women liberated, it does not caress! "That same evening she confirmed her opinion by telephone:" I called all my friends. They are of my opinion, a modern woman does not caress "
For the sexologist, you have to reinvent the couple, which would not be based on domination or fear. The couple should be an initiatory path, where we meet each other and where we meet ourselves. It must leave the possibility of transforming oneself.
Male eroticism, not so basic!
One of the great dramas of theman and of the woman, it is the sexual asymmetry. The pleasure can come in a handful of seconds at theman while it takes several minutes for the woman. Control of ejaculation helps to harmonize sex. The men must learn the inner caress that provides a long exchange of pleasure, a walk the sex in the sex...
For their part, women do not understand the eroticism of themanwhich is not so simple as they think.
Gérard Leleu points the particular position of women compared to the breakdowns of theman : "In the circumstances, a woman will say" it's okay ... ", caress or suck without conviction the organ in distress and let it fall back, helpless. man, It's dramatic. He feels downgraded! Women should deploy a wealth of imagination and patience to revive a sex softened! "
Women can do better
Similarly, oral sex and caresses require subtlety. What should be done with art often suffers from more or less imagination. Another complaint: Westerners do not move well, unlike the Orientals who have a very loose basin. Women should learn to "unblock" their pelvis.
According to the menwe would sometimes be a little lazy and leave on their hunger.
Why ? Because we think too often that male sexuality is basic. For its part, theman is content with what he gets without daring to say what would make him happy (for fear of vexing) or (worse!) without imagining that his partner could do better.
But paradoxically, a woman who is good in her body, who likes to make love and does it well inspires fear men and goes for a whore. "The work to be done, Gérad Leleu analyzes, is to bring theman to tell a marvelous lover that she is a goddess rather than a bitch. "
