My child is aggressive, it's serious doctor?
Why is my child aggressive?
The reasons are multiple. This is often a child who has not enough attention from his parents, he will then be aggressive to be noticed. If your child is having a lot of arguments between you and your spouse, he can also mimic your behavior considering that his attitude is normal since his parents are role models for him. Aggressiveness is often a response to fear, being attacked in one's own territory. The arrival of a little brother or sister can be experienced as something very distressing for the child and can lead to aggression. Aggressiveness can also come from a lack of confidence. The child who was shy or uncomfortable will tend to be aggressive to protect themselves. It is then a rather deep malaise that must be taken into account.
How to intervene? The opinion of child psychiatrist Gaëlle Leblanc.
It is very important to explain things to him. Tell him in a calm and serene tone that you are not happy with his behavior. Try to understand the reasons for his aggression (birth of another child, a friend who bugs him at school). Talking can get her to be reassured about what really worries her. Offer him a pain. It may be time to invest in a punching bag. This will allow him to let off steam, get out all his aggression and it will prevent him from beating on his brothers and sisters. If your child has a tendency to be aggressive, have him play sports or an art activity. And above all, do not hesitate to talk to a child psychiatrist who will help you unlock the situation.
Mom's advice
Julia, Oscar's 7-year-old mom: "Oscar was very aggressive with his little sister Manon, so I locked him in his room for hours, and by spending more time with him alone, I understood that 'In fact, he felt abandoned, and he needed me to take care of him, and today, everything is fine!'
