My darling wants a baby, not me: what to do?
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Rather than continue to take your pill softly, talk frankly to your man. Is there anything worse for your relationship than making her believe that you can not get pregnant while you continue to take your contraceptive?
Explain to him why you do not feel ready to have baby. If this refusal is temporary, it should be able to be patient whatever the reason (new job, excessive tiredness, small health concern?)
If you do not want to have children at all?
A number of women do not want to have d?childrenand have never had a desire to?children. If you are in this situation, it is important that you tell your man clearly. Do not let him imagine that you will change your mind? You would seriously jeopardize your relationship in the long run because he may be angry with you for lying to him. To be clear from the start. If he really wants you, he must be able to respect your choice, whatever your reasons. If this refusal comes from a phobia of the pregnancyPerhaps you can talk about the possibility of adoption? Who knows ?
However, in some cases, the categorical refusal?childrencan cause a definitive break, know it. But a relationship is also able to move together in the same direction, right?
Do not fall into the trap of emotional blackmail
If you do not want to d?child for the moment, or in the absolute, do not be swept by your darling who insists! Remember that you will wear it for 9 months, give birth etc. It's a real commitment in the long run to have a child and you must feel ready for it.
If your boyfriend threatens to leave you and you decide to get pregnant just to keep him, the relationship is likely to deteriorate because you will feel that he does not love you enough for what you are and for the mother that you can become?
